Adoption

A Human Issue

We are all one family, graced here by God.  Our highest purpose on earth is to reach out in love to one another, to answer the call to care for those who have not, and to willingly step outside of our comfort zone despite our fears.

It is estimated that there are some 153 million orphans worldwide.  Only a small percentage are what are called “true orphans”, the greater proportion are from homes where their parents are unable to care for them – financially, physically, emotionally.  Orphanages provide shelter, food, medical care, an education, safety and stability.  What they can’t provide is permanence or the love of a mother and father, of siblings – the kind of love and support that lasts a lifetime.  These children need families.

The most vulnerable children are those who are labeled “special needs”.  This can be anything from minor medical needs to serious developmental issues.  But it also includes older children (over the age of 5 years) and sibling groups.

By the time children reach 16 years old, they begin to ‘age out’ of the orphanage system.  They must leave the stability and safety of their orphanages to make their own way, often without a place to go, little or no job training, few or no job prospects.  Many become victims of violence, suicide, drugs, alcohol, or the sex trade.  And some repeat the cycle by having children that they are unprepared to care for.

Hope:

But there are families willing to do something to break that cycle, to give a child or children the chance to fulfill their potential.  We are just one of those families.  Are you being called to reach out and be His hands, His heart, to a child or children?  To be an instrument of His peace, proclaiming the truth and reality of this message?

“For I know well the plans I have in mind for you, says the LORD, plans for your welfare, not for woe! plans to give you a future full of hope. When you call me, when you go to pray to me, I will listen to you. When you look for me, you will find me. Yes, when you seek me with all your heart, you will find me with you, says the LORD, and I will change your lot; I will gather you together from all the nations and all the places to which I have banished you, says the LORD, and bring you back to the place from which I have exiled you.” – Jer 29:11-14 (NAB)

If you feel a call to consider adoption, we recommend:

  • if possible find an agency that is able to handle both your home study AND placement for whatever country you want to adopt from
  • Check out RainbowKids once you’ve completed your home study
  • Check out AdoptUSKids for older child domestic adoptions (check all states’ listings, some states have wonky requirements or preferences)
  • Find support groups for the country you’re adopting from
  • Find support groups for kids with attachment issues (there are a couple of good ones on Facebook)
  • BEFORE your child comes home, take a class – a real class – in parenting kids from trauma.  The stuff the adoption agency offers is a good overview.  But if you are going to adopt and older child, you need more education, more skills.
  • Familiarise yourself with your new child’s culture – music, food, art, literature, national costume, holidays, customs, etc. Look around where you live to see if there is a cultural club you can join or visit.  Check churches and colleges for those clubs.  Consider learning your child’s native language if he speaks something other than English as his first language. 

Why International Adoption?

Our family is not, by American standards, the usual choice for placement.  We are an already-large family with children ranging from adult to toddler.  And we are  completely open to life, meaning that we do not use any means of contraception.  That is not ideal according to many state and private agencies we have spoken to about domestic adoption in the past.

Also, American children have opportunities that children in other nations will never enjoy.  There is far less stigma attached to being an ‘orphan’ here in America.  Family status doesn’t prevent children from succeeding,.  There are services in place to help children to further their schooling, or obtain job training.

In several other countries, our family is considered too large to adopt, save in some cases of severe special needs, which we are not equipped to handle.  However, that is not so in some Eastern European countries.  They do not restrict families based on size, and they are very reasonable to families in which a parent may have a special need of his or her own, so long as it doesn’t affect his or her ability to parent.  The process appears to be very smooth, and Americans can use an adoption agency to help co-ordinate adoption efforts, or go independent, working directly with an in-country facilitator.

Our Current Adoption Mission

 

We are praying for God to lead us to the the next child or children he wants us to bring into our family, if that is His will.

Not everyone feels called to adopt, and not everyone called to adopt has the means to pay the fees at the time they are called.  But there are those who may be are being called to participate, in a very special way, in what is a miracle for a child or children.  The opportunity to participate in this way is a grace, offering us a way to reach out with our hearts, when we can not with our homes, to those we have compassion for.

You can also participate in making other aware of the need to adopt by sharing our story (and others) with as many people as you know – on Facebook and Twitter, by email, through your own blogs…

You can also help by shopping our store for handmade soaps, candles, accessories, and more. Purchase a print from Nissa’s Etsy shop. Or host a party at your home, church or club to raise funds for us.  Don’t worry, I’ve already done all of the design and all you have to do is co-ordinate the details.  Please email us if you’re interested!

If you are able to bless these children with a financial contribution, we would like to send you a little token to thank you for your generosity.

You can send your contribution through PayPal to:
nissa_@_gadboisfamily_._com
be sure to make a note that your contribution if for the “Renaissance Family Adoption and Orphan Care” so that it can be credited properly. And leave your mailing address so that we can send your thank-you gift.
 
 
 
 
Accountability Statement: The funds received and marked “Renaissance Family Adoption and Orphan Care” will be used to provide special educational materials, to further renovate our home to accommodate our growing family, or in the event of another adoption, will be paid to our facilitator/agency, to the US government (immigration/passport), to our child’s government (court fees, birth certificates, adoption decrees), our child’s orphanage(s), and to the myriad people who will be helping us to bring our children home (translators, drivers, etc.), travel expenses (air, host family/hotel, etc.).
 
If you wish to make a gift, you can send it through PayPal to nissa_@_gadboisfamily_._com, or drop us an email if you would prefer to send it directly to us.
 

And THANK YOU! You are amazing.

We love this music video by Cindy Foote, “Grace Will Grow”.  That’s Cindy’s little gal, Gracie, who was adopted from Ethiopia.

3 Comments

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    7 September, 2012 @ 7:39 am

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  2. Jean Golden-Tevald, DO
    4 November, 2015 @ 9:52 pm

    Our family of 3 was graced by adding a family of 4 from Russia. God has plans that you would never expect! We are so grateful for all our children. Parenting is a challenge no matter what the circumstances. The results are in God’s hands too, we just do the best we can do. May God bless your family and give you the grace to raise all the children He sends your way!

    • Nissa
      5 November, 2015 @ 7:28 am

      Thank you Jean. And may God continue to bless your family!

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